Welcome
This website is dedicated to the number one social problem facing America today; fatherlessness. Yet, nobody talks about it. It is the main reason for so much violence among young males. Far too many boys do not have a male role model in their lives to set boundaries and to be properly socialized. Many of these young men learn to resent and even hate women. That translates into abusive behavior, violence and crime. All too often, the gang becomes a surrogate father.
Therefore, we believe every child needs a dad they can count on. The research is clear: children thrive when they have an involved father—someone who loves them, knows them, guides them, and helps them achieve their destiny. At this website, we give individuals an opportunity to heal from their hurts from not having a connection with their father.
On the contrary, this website is not intended for fathers who feel that their kids have gone astray, and they want to get them back on their side. This is meant for fathers who have screwed up and driven their children away through bad parenting or unresolved issues with the mother of their children. This is for fathers who want to make amends with their children. And fathers who are willing to admit that they made serious parenting mistakes. This is also for sons who want to be free from the pain of past hurts, and move on with their lives.
If you are still willing to read this and you think that it might be talking to you—read on! It is most useful for sons longing for answers from their absent fathers, and have not had the forum to talk about how painful it has been. It is about fathers reconnecting with their estranged kids.
This task can be the most grueling, humbling procedure and, at the same time, hold the most wonderful consequences. This can be a most difficult process for men because we tend to be rather stubborn and have been taught that apologizing is a sign of weakness. You must be willing to throw that theory out the window. Noted psychologist, Albert Bandura, identified motivation as the fourth and final step to learning. If you are willing to learn how to get your relationship with your children back, motivation must be the first step.
In a recent speech given by President Barack Obama, he expressed how the absence of his father has played a major role his personal and professional life. Below is an excerpt from that historic speech:
We Need Fathers To Step Up
by President Barack Obama
But I observe this Father’s Day not just as a father grateful to be present in my daughters’ lives but also as a son who grew up without a father in my own life. My father left my family when I was 2 years old, and I knew him mainly from the letters he wrote and the stories my family told. And while I was lucky to have two wonderful grandparents who poured everything they had into helping my mother raise my sister and me, I still felt the weight of his absence throughout my childhood.
As an adult, working as a community organizer and later as a legislator, I would often walk through the streets of Chicago’s South Side and see boys marked by that same absence—boys without supervision or direction or anyone to help them as they struggled to grow into men. I identified with their frustration and disengagement—with their sense of having been let down.
If Obama can do it, every other child of an absent father can make it too. So, this website is dedicated to those little boys, like President Obama, who are/were a part of the Absent Daddy Club, and looking for an outlet to explore their feelings about their absent fathers.
The father who does not teach his son his duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them.
A man never stands as tall as when he kneels to help a child.
